Anger Management

Anger management counselling helps individuals to understand and express anger and all emotions in a healthy way. Our emotions are just the tip of the iceberg, through a counselling process together we address underlying past trauma, hurt and the various reasons for anger becoming more prevalent. Anger management counselling is also about having a better relationship with yourself and those around you so that you are no longer feeling disconnected from others.

It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.”           – William Arthur Ward – 

Orlagh uses a direct, supportive and motivating approach to dealing with anger management problems. She places a strong emphasis on a holistic approach by discussing lifestyle choices, recreation, exercise, relaxation, resource and support which will have a positive impact on the individual. Counselling may be short to medium term and counselling is attended on a regular basis until you feel your problem has been resolved. Below is an example a therapeutic plan for individuals coming for counselling for anger management.

4 Sessions

  • Understanding anger & stress.
  • Identifying your specific problem.
  • Learning how to communicate better & express emotions in a healthier way.
  • Identifying triggers and finding new ways to cope.

8 Sessions 

  • Understanding anger & stress.
  • Identifying your specific problem.
  • Learning how to communicate better & express emotions in a healthier way.
  • Identifying triggers and finding new ways to cope.
  • Health & lifestyle factors.
  • Practicing self-care.
  • How to start connecting and stop controlling others.
  • Improving relationships.
  • Stress management.

12 Sessions

  • Understanding anger & stress.
  • Identifying your specific problem.
  • Learning how to communicate better & express emotions in a healthier way.
  • Identifying triggers and finding new ways to cope.
  • Health & lifestyle factors.
  • Self-care.
  • Start connecting – stop controlling others.
  • Improving relationships.
  • Stress management.
  • Discussing past trauma and hurt.
  • Healing relationships.
  • Relaxation techniques.
  • Learning to love life and planning for the future.

 

Understanding Anger:

Anger is a natural emotion like all the others which we feel and experience to various degrees based on what is happening around us and inside us. Like all emotions it can be experienced, expressed and repressed in many different ways. Anger is often described as a strong powerful and raw emotion and typically more obvious than others as it is expressed through body language, physical gestures, breathing, facial expressions, tone of voice and language. Anger however is simply another emotion, it is neither healthy or unhealthy. It is how we express and direct our anger which defines it as healthy or unhealthy. The behaviours we develop over time to avoid, control or suppress our emotions are usually far more problematic then the emotions themselves. Anger can be triggered by stimulants such as alcohol and drugs, stress, difficult situations, poor communication and feeling powerless to name just a few. One significant problem with anger is that when it is expressed in an unhealthy misdirected way it leaves the person feeling misunderstood and isolated and begins to damages important relationships. Anger which is misdirected causes many problems.

Read more about Anger Management – Developing Positive Tools & Skills

Some suggested reading: 

  • Anger management for Dummies by Charles H Elliott
  • Anger Management Workbook for Men – Take Control of Your Anger and Master Your Emotions by Aaron Karmin
  • Anger Management for Everyone – Seven Proven Ways to Control Anger & Live a Happier Life by Ray Chip Tafrate PH.D