FERTILITY HEALTH – A Mind and Body Approach to Fertility in 2019.

FERTILITY HEALTH – A Mind and Body Approach to Fertility in 2019.

If you are hoping to get pregnant in 2019 there are many positive health & lifestyle changes you can make to improve your overall fertility. Natural fertility therapies help women to feel empowered and motivated to look after their body and mind while also promoting overall fertility. Trying to get pregnant can sometimes feel like a rollercoaster and what better way to feel supported then by a professional therapist who understands what you are going through. Fertility counselling and fertility reflexology promotes health and wellbeing and support’s women where ever they are on their fertility journey.

Specialist Fertility Counselling

Specialist fertility counselling provides gentle emotional support and understanding to women who are planning a baby naturally or through the various types of the IVF fertility treatments and beyond. Counselling can help to motivate women to make lifestyle changes while also dealing with any personal problems they may be experiencing. Sometimes counselling is the first step to getting help for sexual problems and unexplained infertility. Talking to someone in confidence helps reduce emotional and mental stress which has a positive effect on the body and reduces isolation. With a strong emphasis on self-care, fertility counselling provides a safe space to feel supported, encouraged and empowered.

Fertility Reflexology

Fertility Reflexology is a natural complementary health therapy which focuses on the reflexes of the feet to help bring the whole body into balance. This relaxing and soothing treatment is adapted specifically for fertility and focuses on the reflexes associated with reproduction and pregnancy. Fertility reflexology can be beneficial for women who are planning to have a baby naturally and has many physical and emotional benefits. For women who are planning assisted fertility treatments, reflexology helps to promote a stronger sense of calm, brings balance to the body and is a wonderful way to practice self-care during the various stages and cycles of treatment.  An important role of fertility reflexology is to help improve the overall health of the body so that it can better support a pregnancy.

If you are hoping to improve your health and fertility in 2019, then fertility counselling and reflexology for fertility is a wonderful place to start with the support and understanding of a professional therapist. Orlagh Gahan is one of the few therapists in Ireland who provides a mind and body approach with individuals and couples who are seeking professional therapy for health, fertility and pregnancy.

Orlagh Gahan  is a Specialist Fertility Counsellor & Psychotherapist and Fertility Reflexologist based at the Naas Holistic Centre in Naas, Co. Kildare. She is a member of the Irish Fertility Counsellors Association and the National Register of Reflexologist of Ireland. To find out more and book an appointment on-line visit www.orlaghgahan.ie or email info@orlaghgahan.ie 

Simple Everyday Tips to Help You Feel Calmer

Simple Everyday Tips to Help You Feel Calmer

Stress is a natural part of life. These days, it can be difficult to find a quiet moment to help your body and mind switch off and relax. The problem is that if you are feeling wound up, then it takes time to wind down again. Feeling calmer and relaxed can take time and practice if you have a very busy lifestyle. Many people do not realise how tense they are actually feeling until they try to relax. These simple everyday ideas can help you to feel calmer more often so that you can cope better with stress and feel more focused.

1. Switch coffee and tea for relaxing herbal teas such as Chamomile tea and Bed Time tea.
2. Put a few drops of Lavender or Chamomile essential oils into an oil burner which promote relaxation.
3. Enjoy watching your favorite film.
4. Get engrossed in an inspiring or motivating book.
5. Leave the phone at home, go outside and take a walk somewhere quiet in nature.
6. Have a relaxing massage or reflexology treatment.
7. Lie down in a quite space and listen to relaxation music or a meditation for 30 minutes.
8. Take some quiet time to yourself. Go buy a coffee, walk around a museum, park or a book store and give yourself space to think clearly or not think at all.
9. Practice breathing deeply and have a good stretch in the fresh air or relaxing on your bed.
10. Have fun and laugh often – do things that make you feel good about yourself.
11. Take a cleansing refreshing swim or walk by the sea.
12. Keep a journal and write down your thoughts and feelings at the end of the day.

Find out what works for you, everybody is different. Remember, practice makes perfect.

 

Orlagh Gahan is a Complementary Health Therapist and Psychotherapist based in Co. Kildare, Ireland. She provides a range of therapies for physical, mental and emotional health. To find out more visit www.orlaghgahan.ie

 

 

The Irish Fertility Counsellors Association

The Irish Fertility Counsellors Association

Did you know that in Ireland we have a number of Counsellors & Psychotherapists trained specifically in fertility and infertility problems?

Specialist fertility counsellors provide counselling and professional emotional support to men and women who are effected by fertility issues. Talking to a counsellor can help get you through challenging times whether you are going through natural conception or assisted IVF fertility treatment. Counselling can help both men and women where ever they are on their fertility journey. Sometimes couples can experiences stress and tension as a result of ongoing fertility complications. Counselling can help couples to cope better together and plan for the future.

Fertility counsellors can help you through the following problems:

-Infertility
-Sub-fertility
-Secondary infertility
-Sexual problems & fertility
-Assisted fertility & IVF
-Natural fertility
-Grief & loss
-Stress management
-Relationship difficulties
-Preparing for a baby

You can find a list of some of these specialist fertility counsellors at www.fertilitycounsellors.ie or contact me at www.orlaghgahan.ie to book an appointment for Fertility Counselling in Co. Kildare.

Orlagh Gahan is a Psychotherapist & Complemenaty Health Therapist based in Co. Kildare who provides a range of therapies for physical, mental and emotional health. Find our more at www.orlaghgahan.ie.

Can Regular Exercise Lead To A Better Sex Life?

Recently I spoke with Stellar Magazine about the connection between exercising, fitness and sex which can have a positive ripple effect on intimacy and relationships.

Stellar.ie | Can Regular Exercise Lead To A Better Sex Life? Here’s What The Experts Say..

You’ve probably heard about all of the health benefits of regular exercising: reduced risk of heart problems, type 2 diabetes and obesity, to name a few. But exercise can have huge benefits to another aspect of your life – your sex drive.

Sex itself is an intense physical exercise that tests your endurance and stamina. And while doing regular exercise can be a bit of chore, if it were more likely to enhance your sex life and lead to better orgasms, would you be more inclined to do it?

We spoke to sex psychotherapist Orlagh Gahan to find out how exactly exercise can impact your life in the bedroom.

There is no doubt that exercise, fitness and overall levels of stress are right up there on top of the list of things which affect our sex drive which often dips or disappears when we are experiencing periods of stress. Exercise helps to reduces stress as the brain releases feel good chemicals and hormones into the body, the same in-fact as during sex, orgasms or when we receive hugs.

“Regular exercise which gets our blood pumping means we feel fitter, more positive and motivated all round,” she said. She explains that exercise can have such a huge impact on your sex life as it gets you out of you head and reduces stress:

Continue reading this article at STELLAR.IE Can-regular-exercise-lead-to-a-better-sex-life-heres-what-the-experts-say.

Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery Resources

It is difficult to know where to start when you are seeking help for yourself or a loved one for a sexual addiction or pornography addiction. The good news is the more you start to research the subject, the more support and resources you will find are available. It is important however that you get help as early as possible and continue with various therapeutic interventions until you feel completely free from any problematic behaviour or addiction. Recovery often means engaging in both personal therapy and relationship counselling until the end of the process or on an ongoing basis. The level of professional support required will depend on the severity of the addiction and various other factors. Individuals may also have mental health problems, past trauma or abuse which also requires addressing. Partners are also encouraged to attend counselling, as addiction impacts spouses and family members on many levels.

You alone can do it, but you cannot do it alone.’

Below are some suggestions regarding sexual addiction recovery;

  1. Private counselling with a professional Psychotherapist, Psychosexual Counsellor or Addiction Counsellor.
  2. Attending a treatment recovery centre or Intensive 6 Day Recovery Course.
  3. Attending group therapy or group support regularly such as SLAA or SA.
  4. Speaking to your GP for a referral to a Psychologist or Psychiatrist.
  5. Attending an Addiction and Recovery (Life) Coach.
  6. Reading various books on sex addiction, pornography addiction and relationship recovery.
  7. Completing online courses for pornography addiction.
  8. Various Apps for your phone which can aid and encourage recovery.
  9. Using online resources and websites which educate and promote recovery.

Below are some Irish & UK resources which you may find helpful;

Support Groups in Ireland
Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) – www.slaaireland.org
Sexaholics Anonymous (SA Ireland) – www.saireland.com
S-Anon – Support for partners of Sex Addicts – www.sanon.org/meetings/meetingsireland.html

Professional Counselling Associations & Professionals
Addiction Counsellors of Ireland – www.addictioncounsellors.ie
Irish Association of Counsellors & Psychotherapists – www.iacp.ie
Psychosexual & Relationship Counsellors of Ireland & UK – www.cosrt.org.uk
Eoin Stephens Psychotherapist – www.eoinstephens.com
Addictive Behaviours & Sex Addiction Private Counselling – www.addictivebehaviours.ie

Addiction Recovery Centers 
The Rutland Centre – www.rutlandcentre.ie
Aiseiri – www.aiseiri.ie
Cuan Mhuire – www.cuanmhuire.ie
Smarmore Castle Private Rehabilitation Clinic – www.smarmore-rehab-clinic.com
6 Day UK Intensive Sex Addiction Recovery Course –  www.paulahall.co.uk

Online Resources
The Kickstart Recovery Guide -21 Page Recovery Workbook –  www.sexaddictionhelp.co.uk
The Fortify Programme – Online Pornography Recovery course – www.fortifyprogram.org/
Fight The New Drug – Pornography Awareness & Education- www.fightthenewdrug.org
8 week online course for Porn Addiction – www.paulahall.co.uk/services/addiction-recovery/
Sex Addiction Education & Information – www.paulahall.co.uk
The Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity – www.atsac.co.uk

Recommended Reading List of Sexual Addiction Recovery & Self Help Books for Addicts & Partners

One day….or day one, you decide.

Pregnancy Essentials – Hospital & Baby Bag Checklist

Pregnancy Essentials – Hospital & Baby Bag Checklist

Your new baby is arriving soon and you probably have a lot on your mind so being prepared can help to reduce any anticipation you may be feeling. Taking plenty of time to enjoy the experience of getting your hospital bag ready can also help you to prepare mentally for the labour process. This helpful hospital & baby bag checklist will make sure you and your new arrival are fully prepared for your trip to hospital. It’s never to early to prepare your hospital bags, a good rule of thumb is from around 34+ weeks or early in your third trimester. Don’t worry if you forget anything, you will have plenty of time for someone to bring more supplies as you need them. 

Essentials For Labour:

Birth plan ☐
Loose nightdress for labour   ☐
Nightwear – Plenty of changes  ☐
Disposable maternity briefs ☐
Dressing gown ☐
Perineal gel ☐
Slippers or Flip Flops ☐
Toiletries – Toothbrush, tooth paste, shampoo, rejuvenating shower gel ☐
Maternity sanitary towels  ☐
Face cloth ☐
Cold drinks & water ☐
Glucose sweets for energy  ☐
Hairbrush, hairband or clips to keep hair out of Face  ☐
Lip Balm – Lips can get dry during labour   ☐
Bikini if you are using a birthing bath  ☐
Makeup bag  ☐
Phone & charger  ☐

Non Essentials But Good To Have:

Pregnancy birthing ball (Often provided by Hospital)   ☐
Tens Maternity machine for contractions   ☐
Beanie Bag to heat for back pain   ☐
Essential oils to help with relaxation or tiredness such as Lavender, Lemon or Peppermint  ☐
Rejuvenating face mist spray  ☐
HypnoBirthing or GentleBirth music/audio ☐
Ipod, music device or Ipad ☐
Ear plugs  ☐
Something to read i.e Books, magazines ☐

For Mum Post Birth:

Loose cotton top suitable for skin to skin ☐
Plenty of maternity underwear  ☐
Toiletries ☐
Lanolin nipple cream     ☐
Disposable nursing pads  ☐
Maternity nursing bras  ☐
Small jar of Manuka/organic honey to consume post birth to help balance hormones & blood sugars
Light snacks and drinks for energy ☐

For Your New Baby:

Baby gros & vests  ☐
Baby hat, socks and mits ☐
Newborn nappies ☐
Baby wipes ☐
Newborn Soother ☐
Blanket (Provided by Hospital) ☐
Car Seat ☐

Orlagh Gahan is a Complementary Health Therapist and Psychotherapist in Naas, Co. Kildare providing a range of therapies for Health, Pregnancy and Fertility. Find out more at www.orlaghgahan.ie and Facebook/TherapyForWelless (Image with thanks to Mon Petit Chou Photography on Unsplash

Sexual Addiction Recovery & Self Help Books for Addicts & Partners

Sexual Addiction Recovery & Self Help Books for Addicts & Partners

Contrary to what many clients and partners believe when they initially come for counselling for sexual addiction, there are in fact many self help and recovery related books on the subject. As new research continues to emerge so to does the variety of literature and understanding in the field. Below is a shortlist of some of the many books for anyone seeking information, understanding, recovery or help for sexual addiction and pornography addiction. I strongly recommend to anyone who is struggling with problematic sexual behaviours, sex or pornography addiction to start to understand, through reading, how the problem is effecting you, your partner and your life. Knowledge is power.

Most of the below books are available on Amazon.com and are downloadable on Kindle.

Sex Addiction – The Partners Perspective by Paula Hall, UK (2015) *Recommended Reading*

Understanding and Treating Sex Addictions: A Comprehensive Guide for People who Struggle with  Sex Addiction and those who  want to Help Them by Paula Hall, UK (2012) *Recommended Reading*

Always Turned On: Facing Sex Addiction in the Digital Age by R.Weiss & J.P Schneider (14 Jan 2014)

Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsessinos and Shame by G. Collins (2011)

Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict by Patrick Carnes (1994)

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men by Robert Weiss (2005)

Cybersex Exposed: Simple Fantasy or Obsession? by J. Schneider & R. Weiss (2001)

Desire: Where Sex Meets Addiction by Susan Cheever (2009)

Disclosing Secrets: When, to Whom, and How Much to Reveal by Deborah Cor-ley and Jennifer Schneider (2012)

Don’t Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes (1992)

Facing the Shadows – Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery Workbook by Patrick Carnes (2015) *Recommended Reading*

A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery by P.Carnes (2012)

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behaviour by P. Carnes, D. Delmonico, E. Griffin (2007)

Is It Love or is it Addiction by Brenda Schaeffer (2009)

Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Codependents by R.Earle & G.  Crow (1989)

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes (2001)

Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families by Pamela Paul (2010)

Say Yes to Your Sexual Healing: Daily Meditations for Overcoming Sex Addiction by Leo Booth (2009)

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by R.Weiss and D.Sack (2013)

Sex Addictions And Real Life Stories | Help and Healing for the Sex Addict by T.D. Johnston (2012)

Sex Addicts Anonymous by Sex Addicts Anonymous Fellowship (2009)

Stop Sex Addiction by Milton S. Magness (2013)

The Sex Addiction Workbook: Proven Strategies to Help You Regain Control of Your Life by T.P Sbraga & W.T O’Donoghue  (2004)

The Teen Guide to Recovery from Sex and Porn Addiction: Based on Dr. P Carnes ‘Innovative Thirty Task Treatment Model  (Jan  2014)

Untangling the Web: Sex, Porn and Fanstasy Obsesssion in the Internet Age by J. Schneider and R. Weiss (2006)

 

Related reading for partners, spouses and couples;   

Sex Addiction – The Partners Perspective by Paula Hall, UK (2015)

A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction: A Step-by-Step Plan to Rebuild Trust and Restore Intimacy by P. Collins and G. N.  Collins (2011)

Facing Heartache: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by S. Carnes, M.A. Lee & A.D Rodriguez (2012)

Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction by C. Black and C. Tripodi (2012)

A House Interrupted: A Wife’s Story of Recovering from Her Husband’s Sex Addiction by Maurita Corcoran (2011)

Claiming Your Self-esteem: Guide Out of Co-dependency, Addiction and Other Useless Habits by Carolyn M. Ball (1991)

Escape from Intimacy: Untangling the “Love” Addictions: Sex, Romance, Relationships by Anne Wilson Schaef(1990)

Letters To A Sex Addict: The Journey through Grief and Betrayal by Wendy Conquest (2013)

Lonely All the Time: Recognizing, Understanding and Overcoming Sex Addiction, for Addicts and Co-Dependents by R. Earle, G.  Crow & K.  Osborn  (1989

Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey Through Sexual Addiction by S. W Silverman

Love, Infidelity, and Sexual Addiction: A Co-dependent’s Perspective – Including Cybersex Addiction by Christine A.  Adams (2009)

Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by S. Carnes (2011)

Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families by Pamela Paul (2010)

Relationships from Addiction to Authenticity: Understanding Co-Sex Addiction – A Spiritual Journey to Wholeness and Serenity  by C. Pletcher & S. Bartolameolli (2008)

Sex, Addictions, and Marriage: The Importance of Sexual Integrity by David J. Shock (2013)

Soaring Above Co-Addiction. Helping your loved one get clean, while creating the Life of your Dreams by Lisa Ann Espich  (2012)

Stop Sex Addiction: Real Hope, True Freedom for Sex Addicts and Partners by Milton S. Magness (2013)

The Porn Trap: A Guide to Healing from Porn Addiction, for Sufferers and Their Loved Ones by W. Maltz (2009)

Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power by C. Davis Kasl, Ph.D (1990)

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope & Heal by B.Steffens & M.Means (2009)

You can also find UK based information, resources and intensive recovery courses at www.paulahall.co.uk and sexaddictionhelp.co.uk

Download your first steps 19 page Kick Start Recovery guide by Paula Hall.

If you would like to find out about private personal counselling for sex or pornography addiction in Kildare, visit www.addictivebehaviours.ie and www.orlaghgahan.ie. 

The Joy of Massage Therapy During Pregnancy

The Joy of Massage Therapy During Pregnancy

Complementary health therapies such as pregnancy massage therapy and maternity reflexology can be wonderful during pregnancy and are often a welcome relief from many pregnancy symptoms and the life changes which come with pregnancy. In fact, you may never appreciate lying down and being pampered with a massage as much as you do during pregnancy, it truly feels incredible.

Pregnant women have been honoured and celebrated throughout history with ceremonies and rituals which often included touch, bathing, nurturing and massage. In many cultures around the world, abdominal massage has been prevalent to help sooth mother and baby, while also helping to ensure the correct positioning of the baby. These days, modern women are too busy to indulge in rituals and ceremonies which makes pregnancy massage even more inviting.

Massage therapy has many health benefits for both mother and baby particularly in the third trimester when her body is working overtime as baby piles on the pounds. Many women are often still working and managing family life with very little time for relaxation or to put their feet up for an hour. Pregnancy can be demanding on the body and massage therapy helps to counteract those slight physical symptoms which build up during the 40 week rollercoaster. Regular treatments can help with muscle pain, aching legs and fatigue while also promoting a strong sense of relaxation.

Touch is such a powerful and under-estimated sense, most women find the emotional benefits far out-weigh the physical benefits when it comes to maternity massage.”

Therapy also provides an opportunity for mother to switch off from the outside world for just a brief moment in time to connect with her baby. Take some time to experience the joy of massage therapy during your pregnancy journey.

Orlagh Gahan is a Reflexologist and Massage Therapist who provides a range of specialist therapies for health, pregnancy and fertility in Naas, Co, Kildare.