Connect with your partner using the Gottman Relationship App

Connect with your partner using the Gottman Relationship App
How well do you know your partner? Would you like to learn more about each other?  How about develop new skills together for developing a healthy connected relationship? Or… maybe you just want to help your partner ask you more deep and meaningful questions for a change. The latest Gottman relationship app can help you both feel more connected. 

What is the Gottman card decks app?

The Gottman Card Decks App is a relationship app created by The Gottman Institute for couples to use to help deepen their understanding of each other using fun helpful questions, statements and ideas to choose from. It has 14 card decks with over 1000 flashcards to select. It can be used as a resource tool for couples attending Gottman Method couples therapy outside of the therapy room or for couples who just want to have fun and get to know each other better and learn new skills at any phase of their relationship. Gottman trained couples therapists are big on providing couples with tools and exercises they can practice outside of therapy.

Each deck is based on the basic Gottman principals for developing stronger relationships such as building connection, creating rituals, developing empathy, expressing appreciation and needs, learning listening skills and asking open-ended questions. The love maps and salsa categories focus on developing romance, passion and sexual intimacy.

This clever relationship app gives couples an opportunity to get to know each other better in a simple and structured way. Each deck provides insight into the topics that it really is OK to talk about in your relationship.

How do we use the Gottman card decks app?

The App is free, simple to use and available for download on your smartphone or tablet device, just search Gottman Card Decks. Practice using it a couple of times over a period of weeks and months until you both get more comfortable opening up. Give each other plenty of time to talk through questions and statements rather then quickly making your way though each one, the aim is opening up and listening to understand rather than to respond.  Trusting your partner is core. In order to build trust together, agree that you can both decline to answer any questions that put you out of your comfort zone.  Encourage each other to use the practical decks which are expressing needs, expressing empathy, showing appreciation and great listening.

What are the different card decks categories?

The app consists of 14 card decks designed to inspire and educate various aspects of relationship health. Just click on the deck you would both like to explore together.  You can favorite questions and statements and come back to them again at another time. It might be helpful to also check out the gottman relationship blog if you want to learn more about all the wonderful research, science and psychology of relationships.

Below are the different deck options on the app to explore with your partner. Happy connecting.

Love Maps
Open-Ended Questions
Rituals of Connection
Opportunity
Sex Questions
Date Questions
Give Appreciation
Expressing Needs
Expressing Empathy
Great Listening
Salsa Mild, Medium and Hot!

You can find more great Gottman Institute resources such as books, blogs and online workshops for couples online at www.gottman.com or find a Gottman couples therapist using the Gottman referral network worldwide directory.

30 Days To A Better Relationship – The Latest Gottman Institute Couples Tool

30 Days To A Better Relationship – The Latest Gottman Institute Couples Tool

The Gottman Institute who are experts in relationship research have just launched a new tool for couples called 3o Days To a Better Relationship. This is an exciting email series provided over 30 days which aims to help couples reconnect and inject some positivity into their relationship. Focusing on important habits and behavours such as listening, appreciation, creating meaning and developing rituals together along with simple exercises to practice with your partner. It is a great way of learning more about the basic Gottman method couples therapy principals for healthier happier relationships.

Relationships can be complicated and don’t always run as smoothly as we might like so learning more about what makes happy long lasting relationships is a huge benefit to couples.   – Orlagh Gahan

The Gottman Institute also have a range of tools designed especially for couples to use together such as The Art and Science of Love Online Workshop, The Small Things Often Podcast, the Gottman Relationship Blog and even an app called Gottman Card Deck which you can use at home for a better relationship. All of these Gottman tools can be used individually or to support couples attending couples therapy and relationship counselling together. You might be interested in reading my article – Improve your relationship at home without a couples therapist with these Gottman Relationship tools.

Find a Couples therapist near you using the Gottman Referral Network Directory.

You can find out more about Gottman Method Couples Therapy face to face and online couples therapy appointments on my website www.orlaghgahan.ie.

 

 

The ‘Small Things Often’ Podcast Season 2 For Couples is Now Available

The ‘Small Things Often’ Podcast Season 2 For Couples is Now Available

Season 2 of the Small Things Often podcast is now available to listeners. The Gottman Institute created the Small Things Often podcast for individuals and couples. They are experts in relationship research and they know from studying over 30,000 couples what makes relationships and love last or fail. The Gottman Institute have trained over 50,000 therapists around the world to specialise in Gottman Method Couples therapy and provide a range of resources, books and training for couples and clinicians.

The Small Things Often podcast shares simple short 5 minute insights into various aspects of healthy relationships that you can learn, practice and hopefully introduce into your own relationship.

Listen to it alone or with your partner each week. It may be helpful for couples who are already attending Gottman Method Couples Therapy or any type of relationship counselling and sexual recovery.  The Small Things Often podcast is available on SPOTIFY and most podcast platforms.

Here are some of the most recent episodes;

  • Mindfulness and Awareness
  • Flooding & Overwhelm
  • Say What You Need
  • What Does Compatibility Really Mean?
  • The Grass is Greener Where You Water It
  • Relationship Facts & Myths
  • Intimacy Through Self Disclosure
  • Two Sides of Stonewalling
  • Complaints vs Criticism

Are you looking for a Gottman Method Couples Therapist in Ireland?

Find a therapist near you on the online gottman.com directory or visit me at www.orlaghgahan.ie for online gottman method couples therapy and relationship counselling for you and your partner. I provide therapy online and face to face for individuals and couples experiencing problems with sex and intimacy, addiction and recovery, infidelity, betrayal, relationship problems, sex and porn addiction, sexual recovery and relationship healing. You can book online at www.orlaghgahan.ie or email info@orlaghgahan.ie

Preparing For Your First Online Couples Therapy Session Together

Preparing For Your First Online Couples Therapy Session Together

How do we prepare for an online couples therapy session?

Deciding to get the help of a relationship therapist face to face or online can feel like a big decision, one that sometimes takes a long time to make.  Preparing for your first online couples therapy session could be the difference between a positive or negative experience of online therapy.

These days couples seek out professional relationship therapists for all types of reasons and not just because there is a breakdown in their relationship. They are often looking for support, guidance and direction on how best to address concerns and worries relating to health, family and lifestyle. Unfortunately, many couples wait too long to seek professional help and support so it can take time to work backwards through any difficulties they are experiencing. Some couples seek out therapy to re-couple or de-couple effectively following a relationship breakdown.

Now that many Psychotherapists and Relationship Counsellors are available online it will make accessing couples therapy a more viable and realistic option. Online therapy is convenient, efficient and has many different types of benefits compared with traditional face to face therapy particularly for couples who have hectic schedules, live apart or who have childcare restrictions. There are also differences between online therapy and traditional face to face therapy – but different does not mean less effective so it helps to be prepared. Book your first online couples therapy  appointment here. 

Getting the most out of your first online couples therapy session together is important. For many couples it will also be the first-time meeting with their relationship therapist and understanding how therapy works. Hopefully, you will have been able to find the right relationship counsellor for you both.

Online therapy is convenient, efficient and has many different types of benefits compared with traditional face to face therapy particularly for couples who have hectic schedules, live apart or who have childcare restrictions.

Here are some simple tips to help you both be prepared and ready for your first online couples therapy session.

Timing. Book appointment times that suit you both which will ensure you are not stressed starting the appointment or interrupted by anything or anyone. I ask my couples to sit down for 5 or 10 minutes before their session starts to check-in with each other and talk about they what would like to bring up in therapy.

Comfort. Decide on a comfortable space to do your session, ideally this will be a quiet bright room where you can both sit side by side together facing your online therapist. I notice couples work best when sitting together on the couch or at a kitchen table close to their device. Relax and settle yourselves ahead of your session, make each other a cup of coffee and settle down.

Privacy. Being comfortable and relaxed will help you both to open-up and talk honestly about how you are feeling, this is at the core of effective couple’s therapy. Reduce the risk of interruptions from family or children so that you can talk comfortably.

Device. Ideally do your online sessions on a laptop, PC or larger size tablet which has a good camera and audio. This means your therapist will be able to see and hear you both clearly all through the session. A phone is not ideal for regular ongoing therapy sessions as it is difficult for the therapist to see you both.

Internet Connection. Make sure you have a good strong internet signal on your device. Turn off the wi-fi on your phones and anything else that may reduce internet connection for the duration of your session. Closedown all applications, notifications and any other software that may interrupt you both. A poor-quality signal may mean the session will have to end abruptly.

Lighting. Good quality lighting means that your therapist will be able to see you both well. Verbal communication is only a small percentage of actual communication, so they need to be able to see you both clearly. Turn on an overhead light or have a table light close by.

Preparation. Its always a great idea to be mentally prepared for your therapy sessions. Write down notes, thoughts or questions that you would like to raise in the session. Its helpful for couples to talk together ahead of appointments and agree on specific topics or problems. It does not matter if you do not agree on what you want to discuss as both opinions are important.

Mindset. Online couples therapy is best suited to couples who are focused on finding solutions and some common ground to deal with their relationship problems and concerns. It is not ideal for couples who are in a high conflict or distressed state unless you have agreed with the therapist in advance that online therapy is a suitable intervention. Being in a high conflict state means that one or both partners are very emotive and will be unable to listen, talk or empathise effectively with each other or their therapist.

Communication. Both individuals need to be able to express themselves, respect each other while talking and engage in active listening. Criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling during sessions will make online therapy sessions completely ineffective. Make a decision to try work together for the duration of your online couple’s therapy session even if you both have different feelings, opinions and agendas.

Expectations. It takes time for the couple’s therapy process to develop. The first few sessions will be focusing on assessing the problems and factors which are affecting the relationship. With sessions often limited to one hour at a time, it may take several sessions before you feel any intervention or progress is being made. Committing to at least six couples therapy sessions together will give you a good idea of how beneficial they are for you both, bearing in mind that relationship counselling is often a medium to longer term process over months.

Follow the instructions provided by your therapist well in advance of your session to start your online therapy sessions. Depending on the software they use, you may need to download software, create an account or profile. I use DOXY.ME which means my clients just need to click on a secure link to access the virtual therapy room.

Can we do online couples therapy sessions in different locations?  

Yes. Online couples therapy sessions can be done from the same location or separate locations depending on your relationship counsellor. If you are in different locations, both individuals will log into the virtual therapy room at the time the appointment starts and a group call will commence together. This type of therapy group call can take some time to get use to but will be suitable for couples residing in different locations or countries.

Do you want to start therapy? To book an individual online therapy session or online couples therapy session please CLICK HERE to view, book and pay for an appointment with me. You can find out more at www.orlaghgahan.ie 

Hold Me Tight Online Couples Course by Dr. Sue Johnson – 50% OFF

Hold Me Tight Online Couples Course by Dr. Sue Johnson  – 50% OFF

Hold Me Tight: Your guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships by Dr Sue Johnson is available as a book and audio-book and comes highly recommended by many Relationship Counsellors and Marriage Counsellors around the world. 

You can also listen to Dr. Johnson being interviewed on many relationship podcasts talking about Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment, healthy relationships and relationship healing.

Hold me Tight is available as an online course for couples to help them work through the practices and principles together in their own time. Right now, you can get 50% of Dr Sue Johnsons Hold Me Tight Online Couples Course at holdmetightonline.com

For all of us, the person we love most in the world, the one who can send us soaring joyfully into space, is also the person who can send us crashing back to earth. All it takes is a slight turning away of the head or a flip, careless remark. There is no closeness without this sensitivity. If our connection with our mate is safe and strong, we can deal with these moments of sensitivity. Indeed, we can use them to bring our partner even closer. But when we don’t feel safe and connected, these moments are like a spark in a tinder forest. They set fire to the whole relationship. – Dr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me Tight

If you would like to talk to a professional Psychotherapist and Relationship Counsellor online about your relationship contact me at www.orlaghgahan.ie or email info@orlaghgahan.ie

Find out more about online therapy here or book your appointment securely online using Acuity Scheduling here.

 

20% OFF Couples Workshop Online – The Art and Science of Love Online

20% OFF Couples Workshop Online – The Art and Science of Love Online

Do you want to work on your relationship together at home in your own time? Now you can watch The Art and Science of Love Online edition at home with your loved one. This is a two day couples workshop for couples who want to learn more about healthy happy relationships. The Gottman Institute is providing a 20% discount on this online course from 30/4/2020 to 15/5/2020 using promo code SOCIAL20ASL.

Dr. John and Julie Gottman founders of The Gottman Institute are experts in relationship research for over four decades and they know what makes love last, what are the predictors of divorce and how to develop healthy friendship, intimacy, connection, understanding and respect in your relationship. They have turned their live workshop into a online couples workshop.

This online workshop is over 8 hours of the most up to-date research, tools and strategies for couples and includes a downloadable manual.

If you would like to talk to a professional accredited Psychotherapist & Relationship Counsellor online about your relationship visit www.orlaghgahan.ie  or contact me at info@orlaghgahan.ie

Healing From Betrayal & Infidelity – An e-book Resource For Partners & Spouses

Healing From Betrayal & Infidelity – An e-book Resource For Partners & Spouses

Finding out your partner or spouse has betrayed you in some way is devastating and traumatic. Partners go through a process or stages of emotions such as shock, disbelief, anger, hurt, depression, questioning.

Betrayal in relationships can take many forms, it is often confused with infidelity which is a form of betrayal. Other types are being secretive, dishonest, disloyal, lying, disrespectful and lying by omission in a relationship. Betrayal is essentially breaking or breaching the trust and commitment developed between two people while at the same time creating a false sense of safety, security and reality.

Discovering your significant other has a secret sexual life is a traumatic event. As a result, many betrayed partners and spouses deal with traumatic stress symptoms such as physical pain, increased anxiety, insomnia, depression, poor self-image, overeating, substance abuse, and sexual withdrawal. – Mari Lee

Sadly betrayal can develop in relationships were one person is experiencing problematic behaviors and sexual addiction and porn addiction. Sexual betrayal leaves partners feeling confused and traumatized as they start the process of piecing their lives back together.  Many partners of sex and porn addicts and those who’s spouses have had affairs are faced with the healing and recovery from betrayal and infidelity.

There is healing and support for anyone faced with healing from betrayal and infidelity. It is recommend that you seek the support of a professional Psychotherapist who understands what you are going through with experience of infidelity, affairs and sexual addictions. They can help guide and support you through your own healing process and that of your partners what ever the circumstances. They can also help you understand the process you are going through and discuss how to navigate rebuilding trust in the relationship. This may take the form of a formal disclosure process with your partner, identifying non negotiable ground rules in the relationship and working towards making important decisions and choices about your relationship future together.

This insightful and helpful e-book resource called Healing from Betrayal – An e-book for partners and spouses of Sex and Pornography Addicts by Mari Lee can help you understand more about what you are going through and how to cope in the aftermath of a betrayal, infidelity or affair. Mari Lee is a Licenced Sex Addiction Therapist (LCSAT) in the USA could help you understand more about your own healing process and the steps to take next. You can listen to Mari Lee on popular podcasts about sex and intimacy such as Sex, Love and Addiction with world renowned therapist Rob Weiss.

This e-book which costs around $20 to download will help you understand more about betrayal, sex addiction, sexual recovery, the disclosure process and your own important healing from trauma and recovery process.

Mari Lee also has a wonderful workbook called Facing Heartbreak – Steps to Recovery For Partners of Sex Addicts which I have on a recommend reading list for my clients who come to therapy for partners recovery and support.

Many people who come for counselling have either discovered that their partner has betrayed them (discoverer) or has been told that there has been a betrayal or infidelity (discovered). There is professional support during this difficult time. Couples if they work together can and do rebuild relationships, trust and commitment again with the right support.

If you would like professional help and support visit me at www.orlaghgahan.ie

Coping With Cancelled Fertility Treatments During COVID-19

Coping With Cancelled Fertility Treatments During COVID-19

If you are going through assisted reproductive treatment, IVF and fertility treatments right now or had planned to start your consultation process no doubt you will be devastated to have your treatment plans temporarily suspended or cancelled with no clear date when they may recommence.

It will be difficult for anyone who has not gone through the ups and downs of failing to conceive naturally to truly empathise with the dept of disappointment couples are experiencing as a result of fertility clinics suspending treatment around the country. There is also another level of distress facing couples which is the potential financial impact of joblessness and unpredictability of the near future which may bring fertility treatment plans to an abrupt halt.

This is a challenging and stressful time for everyone adapting to the changes COVID-19 brings to daily life. On top of this stress, coming to terms with suspended fertility treatments will lead to a whole range of mixed emotions not to mention the physical and emotional consequences depending on where you are in your treatment phase.

You are not alone in your feelings of disappointment, frustration, anger, pain and loss or what ever it is you are feeling right now. In recent weeks the number of women and their partners contacting me with their concerns and for support has significantly increased. They are mostly seeking information on how best to support and look after each other and ask about coping tools and skills.

On a positive note, this has been the catalyst for couples to reach out and then sit side by side at home talking openly together to a Fertility Counsellor online about what they are going. Talking to a fertility counsellor about fertility and infertility is something many may not have considered before even though it is recommended by most fertility clinics.  What they gain from the experience of online therapy, I hope, is a closeness and understanding of how to support each other in a positive and effective way. Also learning to trust that they have already developed their own coping skills and resilience through their fertility journey and to keep practicing what has been working for them already.

All couples and especially women, mentally and emotionally prepare themselves for the start of fertility treatment, and this is no easy task. They are often working through the five stages of grief and loss in silence after long periods of time failing to conceive or after repeated miscarriage. Assisted reproductive treatment or IVF, marks the end of trying naturally and the start of putting faith in science and a medical model which can feel very much out of their control.

There is a parallel process of letting go happening alongside a hope and expectation that treatment will result in a healthy pregnancy. Anticipating the possible outcomes alongside the worst and best case scenarios is part of that mental preparation and this can be an additional source of long-term stress and anxiety depending on how you are coping all round.

Couples most likely effected with be those who are right in the middle of treatment, already heavily invested both physically and financially. Many will have spent months going through investigations, test and are now physically preparing for treatments such as egg collection and embryo transfer. Going through IVF required significant planing and aligning of home, work and social life for both partners, another source of ongoing stress. This unexpected suspension of treatment plans may hit psychologically like another loss for the couple adding to an underlying cycle of grief and loss.

“Having optimum psychological, physical and emotional health while managing a fertility health problem will at the very least support you to undertake treatment without being emotionally overwhelmed by it and, based on the research available, is likely to enhance your chances of conceiving while doing so.” – Ann Bracken author of Mind Body Baby

Most fertility clinics are still available by phone and continue to provide online consultations to communicate with their patients and I would encourage you to contact them if you have questions and concerns about your treatment. Fertility counsellors have also moved their practice online using secure Telemedicine Software designed for clinics and healthcare settings like DOXY.ME to meet their clients and are a sound source of professional therapeutic support.

What can I do if my fertility treatment is cancelled?

It is important that you look after yourself in a holistic way during this time of adjustment, unpredictability and disappointment.

Re-framing how you think about these next few weeks or months of social distancing will help you to manage your overall mood and mindset.

Consider this time as an opportunity to both love and rest your body so that when the time comes for treatment you will be feeling calm, prepared and physically well.

Try not to think too far into the future but at the same time enjoy making plans that will support your fertility journey and treatment plans.

Take time out and read a good book or listen to an audio book which will help you to prepare mentally and emotionally for the journey ahead. There are lots of good books available about fertility and self-care. Podcasts are an excellent source of information and insight around natural and assisted fertility.

Continue to stay in-tune with what’s happening in your body, keep up your basal temperature monitoring if you had been doing so and keep tracking your menstrual cycle.

Try not to personalise this global pandemic by using unhelpful internal monologues like ‘why me’ and ‘why us’ which I am sure you are familiar with saying. These will only increase your sense of things feeling out of your control.

Spend extra time talking and connecting with your partner about how you are feeling and coping, being open and honest will bring you together.

Verbalise and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings especially your low mood feelings like sadness and disappointment which will begin to ease with time.

Continue planning for your future and practice positive affirmations to help you feel in control rather than letting your mind catastrophise the future which I hear a lot of from clients.

Turn towards your partner rather than away in this difficult time. Make regular bids for connection, have fun and share fondness and admiration together. Connect on an emotional, romantic and intimate level. Avoid engaging in unnecessary perpetual problems and conflict. These are strategies from Gottman method couples therapy for improving and enhancing healthy relationships.

Get your running shoes on and burn off excess stress and adrenaline which will help regulate roller-coaster emotions by going for a swift walk or run out in the fresh air. This is one of the best ways to quickly change your mood and mindset and will in turn ensure you sleep better.

If you find you are struggling and need to talk to someone, many professional fertility counsellors like myself are supporting clients and couples face to face online which you can do from the comfort of your own home. Online fertility counselling is the same as face to face counselling and could help you to cope better together.

Your time will come soon to recommence your fertility treatment and this is an opportunity to be as prepared as you could ever be. In the mean time if you would like to book an online fertility counselling session click here to book securely with Acuity Scheduling.

Improve Your Relationship at Home Without a Couple’s Therapist With These Gottman Relationship Tools

Improve Your Relationship at Home Without a Couple’s Therapist With These Gottman Relationship Tools

If you want to improve your relationship with your partner or enhance intimacy and connection together then here are some great Gottman Relationship Institute tools and resources for you to try out, with or without the help of a couple’s therapist.

Many couples around the world are practicing social distancing and self-isolation due to COVID-19 which means that the relationships dynamic may change. Some couples will become more stressed and strained while others will flourish and thrive through adversity. This time shared at home is an opportunity to reconnect and try something new.

If you are both going through a difficult time together or are unable to attend face to face relationship counselling or individual therapy right now, then these resources will help you to focus on making things better without the help of a professional therapist. Many psychotherapists and relationship counsellors are now providing online therapy and telephone counselling which you could also consider.

You are 50% of your partnership and you can influence your relationship in many positive ways while also learning about your own emotional and relationship needs.

Most people do not know or understand exactly what makes happy healthy relationships and we tend to just go with the flow and hope things work out for the best. Dr. John and Julie Gottman are experts in relationships and have studied couples for over 30 years. They know what makes marriages succeed or fail, they talk about striving for ‘the good enough relationship’ and not the perfect relationship which quite simply does not exist.

If your partner is reluctant to give your relationship the attention it deserves right now, do not panic. As a relationship counsellor, I can tell you that there is often one person far more invested in trying to make the relationship better. You are 50% of your partnership and you can influence your relationship in many positive ways while also learning about your own emotional and relationship needs.

Here are some excellent resources from the Gottman Relationship Institute that I hope you will find helpful right now, what ever your circumstances.

Small Things Often Podcast – Listen to recently launched Gottman Institute podcast which provides simple short tips in less than five minutes which can help you to improve your relationship. Learn about staying connected, understanding, listening, problem solving, attunement and the principals of making your relationships work. Available on Apple and Spotify.

The 7 Principals For Making Marriage Work book by John & Julie Gottman – Learn exactly what makes relationships work or fail from the experts in relationships based on over 30 years of research from 30,000 couples. For couples wanting to get to know each other better, why not try out their latest book ‘Eight Dates – Essential Conversations For a Lifetime of Love‘. Both are available from your local book shop and on www.bookdepository.com

The Marriage Minute – Sign up to the Marriage Minute Newsletter – It’s a resource of tools, articles, videos, exercises, and more, all founded on Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s four decades of research and clinical experience, delivered straight to your inbox.

Couples Workshop Online – The Art and Science of Love Couples Workshop – Just launched last month and based on the 2-day couples workshop all across the USA, its is for couples and clinicians of all ages. This couples workshop, 8 hours duration is now available to watch together online from the comfort of your own home. This is a excellent way of focusing on your relationship in your own time.

You and your partner will learn how to foster respect, affection, and closeness in your relationship. You will build and share a deeper connection with each other. You’ll learn how to keep conflict discussions calm, how to break through conflicted gridlock, and how to strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.‘ – The Art and Science of Love

The Gottman Relationship Blog –  A relationship blog by professional relationship experts for individuals who want to learn more about relationships, communication, conflict, trauma, healing from affairs and infidelity, marriage and couples therapy. Use the search function to narrow down your search.

The Gott Sex website – A unique website created by The Gottman Relationship Institute for couples who want to learn how to develop intimacy, make real love and have deep and meaningful sex.  The Gott Sex is a series of online videos couples can watch together and includes information and exercise to help them learn more about each other.

Thinking of starting couple’s therapy? The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a clinical tool your Gottman therapist uses for your couples therapy assessment sessions. The questionnaire consists of 480 questions about friendship, intimacy, emotions, conflict, values, and trust, as well as parenting, housework, finances, individual areas of concern, and more. It costs $30 to complete and the full report goes directly to your Gottman Method couples therapist to discuss in your couple’s therapy sessions.

Find your local Gottman Method Couples Therapist here or want to talk to a professional therapist online, click here. You can read more on my latest blog about if online therapy could help you and what are the benefits.

Stay safe, stay connected and stay supporting each other.

 

5 Great Couples Tools To Help Make Love Last

5 Great Couples Tools To Help Make Love Last
Has the energy gone from your relationship? Do you both need help getting closer to each other? Want to improve the romance and passion in your life?

These super modern Gottman couples tools have been developed especially with you in mind. Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a unique way of helping couples to improve their relationship together by building friendship, creating shared meaning together, developing intimacy and resolving conflict. The Gottman Relationship Check-up allows couples and Gottman trained therapists to clearly identify all the strengths and weaknesses of each unique couple who start relationship therapy. They are encouraged to also use these five tools together outside of the therapy room between sessions.

If you or your partner are not quite ready for couples therapy just yet, that’s OK! These easy to use everyday gottman tools can help you both to focus on your relationship together by giving it the attention it deserves.

Make love last by learning how to get the best out of each other and not the worst.

THE GOTTMAN CARD DECK APP

Download the free Gottman Card Deck App in an instant on iTunes and Samsung Play and take time out with your partner to go through all the unique app features.  Each section helps couples reconnect and get to know each other at a deeper level by suggesting open ended questions to ask your partner and discuss together. The app also helps users to learn how to be more appreciative, develop listening skills and be more empathetic towards each other. This is a great simple app to use at any stage of your relationship.

THE SEVEN PRINCIPALS FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK by DR. JOHN GOTTMAN

This New York Times bestselling book by Dr. John Gottman published in 2018 gives couples a road-map to help improve their marriage on 7 different levels. Find out the secret to a happy marriage. Each of the seven principals are important aspects of healthy happy fulfilling relationships. You can purchase this book at any good book store and online at www.bookdepository.com or download and listen together on audio book.

THE GOTTSEX.COM WEBSITE

The gottsex.com website is the perfect tool to help sex up your sex life and learn how to make real love. Two hours of online video streaming dedicated to teaching couples how to reconnect romantically and build sexual intimacy together. When you buy the gottsex guide it includes a simple downloadable guide and exercises to practice together. The gottsex.com guide is a great resource for couples who are experiencing problems with sex or intimacy together or who want to develop a deeper understanding of passion and intimacy. It is also helpful for anyone who feels they may have developed an unhealthy perception of sex and love or who want to learn more about deep and meaningful love making.

THE ART AND SCIENCE OF LOVE DVD SET FOR COUPLES

The Art & Science of Love is a revolutionary live workshop run by the Gottman’s and other certified Gottman Therapists around the world. This 2 day workshop is for couples to learn how to be better partners and have a healthy long lasting relationship. You can find out more about attending these live workshop here. Unfortunately, there are none currently planned for Ireland or the UK right now but you purchase a DVD set of the live workshop and watch it together in the comfort of your own home. The DVD set comes with Gottman couples card decks and relationship guides.

SIGN UP FOR THE MARRIAGE MINUTE EMAIL

Improve you marriage in 60 seconds! The Gottman Marriage Minute email is dedicated to helping you constantly learn about healthy relationships and motivate you to try out new things.  The email gives short regular insights and advice into all aspects of long lasting happy relationship. You can sign up for the marriage minute email here.

All of these Gottman tools are suitable for individuals and couples. I sincerely hope you find these resources helpful. Enjoy reconnecting!

If you would like professional help with sex, dating and relationship problems you can book an appointment with Orlagh Gahan who is a Gottman Trained Couples Therapist. Appointments are available face to face in Kildare and online therapy via DOXY at www.orlaghgahan.ie 

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