30 Days To A Better Relationship – The Latest Gottman Institute Couples Tool

30 Days To A Better Relationship – The Latest Gottman Institute Couples Tool

The Gottman Institute who are experts in relationship research have just launched a new tool for couples called 3o Days To a Better Relationship. This is an exciting email series provided over 30 days which aims to help couples reconnect and inject some positivity into their relationship. Focusing on important habits and behavours such as listening, appreciation, creating meaning and developing rituals together along with simple exercises to practice with your partner. It is a great way of learning more about the basic Gottman method couples therapy principals for healthier happier relationships.

Relationships can be complicated and don’t always run as smoothly as we might like so learning more about what makes happy long lasting relationships is a huge benefit to couples.   – Orlagh Gahan

The Gottman Institute also have a range of tools designed especially for couples to use together such as The Art and Science of Love Online Workshop, The Small Things Often Podcast, the Gottman Relationship Blog and even an app called Gottman Card Deck which you can use at home for a better relationship. All of these Gottman tools can be used individually or to support couples attending couples therapy and relationship counselling together. You might be interested in reading my article – Improve your relationship at home without a couples therapist with these Gottman Relationship tools.

Find a Couples therapist near you using the Gottman Referral Network Directory.

You can find out more about Gottman Method Couples Therapy face to face and online couples therapy appointments on my website www.orlaghgahan.ie.

 

 

The ‘Small Things Often’ Podcast Season 2 For Couples is Now Available

The ‘Small Things Often’ Podcast Season 2 For Couples is Now Available

Season 2 of the Small Things Often podcast is now available to listeners. The Gottman Institute created the Small Things Often podcast for individuals and couples. They are experts in relationship research and they know from studying over 30,000 couples what makes relationships and love last or fail. The Gottman Institute have trained over 50,000 therapists around the world to specialise in Gottman Method Couples therapy and provide a range of resources, books and training for couples and clinicians.

The Small Things Often podcast shares simple short 5 minute insights into various aspects of healthy relationships that you can learn, practice and hopefully introduce into your own relationship.

Listen to it alone or with your partner each week. It may be helpful for couples who are already attending Gottman Method Couples Therapy or any type of relationship counselling and sexual recovery.  The Small Things Often podcast is available on SPOTIFY and most podcast platforms.

Here are some of the most recent episodes;

  • Mindfulness and Awareness
  • Flooding & Overwhelm
  • Say What You Need
  • What Does Compatibility Really Mean?
  • The Grass is Greener Where You Water It
  • Relationship Facts & Myths
  • Intimacy Through Self Disclosure
  • Two Sides of Stonewalling
  • Complaints vs Criticism

Are you looking for a Gottman Method Couples Therapist in Ireland?

Find a therapist near you on the online gottman.com directory or visit me at www.orlaghgahan.ie for online gottman method couples therapy and relationship counselling for you and your partner. I provide therapy online and face to face for individuals and couples experiencing problems with sex and intimacy, addiction and recovery, infidelity, betrayal, relationship problems, sex and porn addiction, sexual recovery and relationship healing. You can book online at www.orlaghgahan.ie or email info@orlaghgahan.ie

Hold Me Tight Online Couples Course by Dr. Sue Johnson – 50% OFF

Hold Me Tight Online Couples Course by Dr. Sue Johnson  – 50% OFF

Hold Me Tight: Your guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships by Dr Sue Johnson is available as a book and audio-book and comes highly recommended by many Relationship Counsellors and Marriage Counsellors around the world. 

You can also listen to Dr. Johnson being interviewed on many relationship podcasts talking about Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment, healthy relationships and relationship healing.

Hold me Tight is available as an online course for couples to help them work through the practices and principles together in their own time. Right now, you can get 50% of Dr Sue Johnsons Hold Me Tight Online Couples Course at holdmetightonline.com

For all of us, the person we love most in the world, the one who can send us soaring joyfully into space, is also the person who can send us crashing back to earth. All it takes is a slight turning away of the head or a flip, careless remark. There is no closeness without this sensitivity. If our connection with our mate is safe and strong, we can deal with these moments of sensitivity. Indeed, we can use them to bring our partner even closer. But when we don’t feel safe and connected, these moments are like a spark in a tinder forest. They set fire to the whole relationship. – Dr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me Tight

If you would like to talk to a professional Psychotherapist and Relationship Counsellor online about your relationship contact me at www.orlaghgahan.ie or email info@orlaghgahan.ie

Find out more about online therapy here or book your appointment securely online using Acuity Scheduling here.

 

20% OFF Couples Workshop Online – The Art and Science of Love Online

20% OFF Couples Workshop Online – The Art and Science of Love Online

Do you want to work on your relationship together at home in your own time? Now you can watch The Art and Science of Love Online edition at home with your loved one. This is a two day couples workshop for couples who want to learn more about healthy happy relationships. The Gottman Institute is providing a 20% discount on this online course from 30/4/2020 to 15/5/2020 using promo code SOCIAL20ASL.

Dr. John and Julie Gottman founders of The Gottman Institute are experts in relationship research for over four decades and they know what makes love last, what are the predictors of divorce and how to develop healthy friendship, intimacy, connection, understanding and respect in your relationship. They have turned their live workshop into a online couples workshop.

This online workshop is over 8 hours of the most up to-date research, tools and strategies for couples and includes a downloadable manual.

If you would like to talk to a professional accredited Psychotherapist & Relationship Counsellor online about your relationship visit www.orlaghgahan.ie  or contact me at info@orlaghgahan.ie

Improve Your Relationship at Home Without a Couple’s Therapist With These Gottman Relationship Tools

Improve Your Relationship at Home Without a Couple’s Therapist With These Gottman Relationship Tools

If you want to improve your relationship with your partner or enhance intimacy and connection together then here are some great Gottman Relationship Institute tools and resources for you to try out, with or without the help of a couple’s therapist.

Many couples around the world are practicing social distancing and self-isolation due to COVID-19 which means that the relationships dynamic may change. Some couples will become more stressed and strained while others will flourish and thrive through adversity. This time shared at home is an opportunity to reconnect and try something new.

If you are both going through a difficult time together or are unable to attend face to face relationship counselling or individual therapy right now, then these resources will help you to focus on making things better without the help of a professional therapist. Many psychotherapists and relationship counsellors are now providing online therapy and telephone counselling which you could also consider.

You are 50% of your partnership and you can influence your relationship in many positive ways while also learning about your own emotional and relationship needs.

Most people do not know or understand exactly what makes happy healthy relationships and we tend to just go with the flow and hope things work out for the best. Dr. John and Julie Gottman are experts in relationships and have studied couples for over 30 years. They know what makes marriages succeed or fail, they talk about striving for ‘the good enough relationship’ and not the perfect relationship which quite simply does not exist.

If your partner is reluctant to give your relationship the attention it deserves right now, do not panic. As a relationship counsellor, I can tell you that there is often one person far more invested in trying to make the relationship better. You are 50% of your partnership and you can influence your relationship in many positive ways while also learning about your own emotional and relationship needs.

Here are some excellent resources from the Gottman Relationship Institute that I hope you will find helpful right now, what ever your circumstances.

Small Things Often Podcast – Listen to recently launched Gottman Institute podcast which provides simple short tips in less than five minutes which can help you to improve your relationship. Learn about staying connected, understanding, listening, problem solving, attunement and the principals of making your relationships work. Available on Apple and Spotify.

The 7 Principals For Making Marriage Work book by John & Julie Gottman – Learn exactly what makes relationships work or fail from the experts in relationships based on over 30 years of research from 30,000 couples. For couples wanting to get to know each other better, why not try out their latest book ‘Eight Dates – Essential Conversations For a Lifetime of Love‘. Both are available from your local book shop and on www.bookdepository.com

The Marriage Minute – Sign up to the Marriage Minute Newsletter – It’s a resource of tools, articles, videos, exercises, and more, all founded on Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s four decades of research and clinical experience, delivered straight to your inbox.

Couples Workshop Online – The Art and Science of Love Couples Workshop – Just launched last month and based on the 2-day couples workshop all across the USA, its is for couples and clinicians of all ages. This couples workshop, 8 hours duration is now available to watch together online from the comfort of your own home. This is a excellent way of focusing on your relationship in your own time.

You and your partner will learn how to foster respect, affection, and closeness in your relationship. You will build and share a deeper connection with each other. You’ll learn how to keep conflict discussions calm, how to break through conflicted gridlock, and how to strengthen and maintain the gains in your relationship.‘ – The Art and Science of Love

The Gottman Relationship Blog –  A relationship blog by professional relationship experts for individuals who want to learn more about relationships, communication, conflict, trauma, healing from affairs and infidelity, marriage and couples therapy. Use the search function to narrow down your search.

The Gott Sex website – A unique website created by The Gottman Relationship Institute for couples who want to learn how to develop intimacy, make real love and have deep and meaningful sex.  The Gott Sex is a series of online videos couples can watch together and includes information and exercise to help them learn more about each other.

Thinking of starting couple’s therapy? The Gottman Relationship Checkup is a clinical tool your Gottman therapist uses for your couples therapy assessment sessions. The questionnaire consists of 480 questions about friendship, intimacy, emotions, conflict, values, and trust, as well as parenting, housework, finances, individual areas of concern, and more. It costs $30 to complete and the full report goes directly to your Gottman Method couples therapist to discuss in your couple’s therapy sessions.

Find your local Gottman Method Couples Therapist here or want to talk to a professional therapist online, click here. You can read more on my latest blog about if online therapy could help you and what are the benefits.

Stay safe, stay connected and stay supporting each other.

 

5 Great Couples Tools To Help Make Love Last

5 Great Couples Tools To Help Make Love Last
Has the energy gone from your relationship? Do you both need help getting closer to each other? Want to improve the romance and passion in your life?

These super modern Gottman couples tools have been developed especially with you in mind. Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a unique way of helping couples to improve their relationship together by building friendship, creating shared meaning together, developing intimacy and resolving conflict. The Gottman Relationship Check-up allows couples and Gottman trained therapists to clearly identify all the strengths and weaknesses of each unique couple who start relationship therapy. They are encouraged to also use these five tools together outside of the therapy room between sessions.

If you or your partner are not quite ready for couples therapy just yet, that’s OK! These easy to use everyday gottman tools can help you both to focus on your relationship together by giving it the attention it deserves.

Make love last by learning how to get the best out of each other and not the worst.

THE GOTTMAN CARD DECK APP

Download the free Gottman Card Deck App in an instant on iTunes and Samsung Play and take time out with your partner to go through all the unique app features.  Each section helps couples reconnect and get to know each other at a deeper level by suggesting open ended questions to ask your partner and discuss together. The app also helps users to learn how to be more appreciative, develop listening skills and be more empathetic towards each other. This is a great simple app to use at any stage of your relationship.

THE SEVEN PRINCIPALS FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK by DR. JOHN GOTTMAN

This New York Times bestselling book by Dr. John Gottman published in 2018 gives couples a road-map to help improve their marriage on 7 different levels. Find out the secret to a happy marriage. Each of the seven principals are important aspects of healthy happy fulfilling relationships. You can purchase this book at any good book store and online at www.bookdepository.com or download and listen together on audio book.

THE GOTTSEX.COM WEBSITE

The gottsex.com website is the perfect tool to help sex up your sex life and learn how to make real love. Two hours of online video streaming dedicated to teaching couples how to reconnect romantically and build sexual intimacy together. When you buy the gottsex guide it includes a simple downloadable guide and exercises to practice together. The gottsex.com guide is a great resource for couples who are experiencing problems with sex or intimacy together or who want to develop a deeper understanding of passion and intimacy. It is also helpful for anyone who feels they may have developed an unhealthy perception of sex and love or who want to learn more about deep and meaningful love making.

THE ART AND SCIENCE OF LOVE DVD SET FOR COUPLES

The Art & Science of Love is a revolutionary live workshop run by the Gottman’s and other certified Gottman Therapists around the world. This 2 day workshop is for couples to learn how to be better partners and have a healthy long lasting relationship. You can find out more about attending these live workshop here. Unfortunately, there are none currently planned for Ireland or the UK right now but you purchase a DVD set of the live workshop and watch it together in the comfort of your own home. The DVD set comes with Gottman couples card decks and relationship guides.

SIGN UP FOR THE MARRIAGE MINUTE EMAIL

Improve you marriage in 60 seconds! The Gottman Marriage Minute email is dedicated to helping you constantly learn about healthy relationships and motivate you to try out new things.  The email gives short regular insights and advice into all aspects of long lasting happy relationship. You can sign up for the marriage minute email here.

All of these Gottman tools are suitable for individuals and couples. I sincerely hope you find these resources helpful. Enjoy reconnecting!

If you would like professional help with sex, dating and relationship problems you can book an appointment with Orlagh Gahan who is a Gottman Trained Couples Therapist. Appointments are available face to face in Kildare and online therapy via DOXY at www.orlaghgahan.ie 

Wordpress Social Share Plugin powered by Ultimatelysocial