How well do you know your partner? Would you like to learn more about each other? How about develop new skills together for developing a healthy connected relationship? Or… maybe you just want to help your partner ask you more deep and meaningful questions for a change. The latest Gottman relationship app can help you both feel more connected.
What is the Gottman card decks app?
The Gottman Card Decks App is a relationship app created by The Gottman Institute for couples to use to help deepen their understanding of each other using fun helpful questions, statements and ideas to choose from. It has 14 card decks with over 1000 flashcards to select. It can be used as a resource tool for couples attending Gottman Method couples therapy outside of the therapy room or for couples who just want to have fun and get to know each other better and learn new skills at any phase of their relationship. Gottman trained couples therapists are big on providing couples with tools and exercises they can practice outside of therapy.
Each deck is based on the basic Gottman principals for developing stronger relationships such as building connection, creating rituals, developing empathy, expressing appreciation and needs, learning listening skills and asking open-ended questions. The love maps and salsa categories focus on developing romance, passion and sexual intimacy.
This clever relationship app gives couples an opportunity to get to know each other better in a simple and structured way. Each deck provides insight into the topics that it really is OK to talk about in your relationship.
How do we use the Gottman card decks app?
The App is free, simple to use and available for download on your smartphone or tablet device, just search Gottman Card Decks. Practice using it a couple of times over a period of weeks and months until you both get more comfortable opening up. Give each other plenty of time to talk through questions and statements rather then quickly making your way though each one, the aim is opening up and listening to understand rather than to respond. Trusting your partner is core. In order to build trust together, agree that you can both decline to answer any questions that put you out of your comfort zone. Encourage each other to use the practical decks which are expressing needs, expressing empathy, showing appreciation and great listening.
What are the different card decks categories?
The app consists of 14 card decks designed to inspire and educate various aspects of relationship health. Just click on the deck you would both like to explore together. You can favorite questions and statements and come back to them again at another time. It might be helpful to also check out the gottman relationship blog if you want to learn more about all the wonderful research, science and psychology of relationships.
Below are the different deck options on the app to explore with your partner. Happy connecting.
Rituals of Connection
Salsa Mild, Medium and Hot!
You can find more great Gottman Institute resources such as books, blogs and online workshops for couples online at www.gottman.com or find a Gottman couples therapist using the Gottman referral network worldwide directory.